GET HAPPY NOW
By Arnette Travis, Author/Activist/Advocate, RLACEI Contributing Author
Living is Giving
Giving to others is really giving to yourself. It’s amazing how this works, but giving to someone who is special to you or contributing to a cause or organization that you feel passionate about can bring a greater sense of satisfaction with life. The act of giving, whether through donations or volunteering your time, often yields personal rewards that extend beyond the act itself.
Giving to others makes you feel good – literally! It triggers your brain’s pleasure center, releasing endorphins (those happy hormones) and oxytocin (often linked to sex). Oxytocin also reduces stress and makes you feel more connected. This warm, fuzzy feeling boosts empathy and generosity, and the effects can last for up to two hours. So, giving isn’t simply good for others; it’s a mood booster for you, too!
Spread the Joy!
Because we love to feel good, a single act of kindness can inspire others to reciprocate. This creates a sense of community and improves emotional and physical well-being. Cultivating kindness fosters a positive feedback loop, leading to a more fulfilling life for everyone. Research shows that the greatest happiness boost comes when giving fosters a social connection. Here are a few suggestions on ways to connect with the people when giving:
- Give experiential gifts: concert/theatre/movie tickets, art/cooking/music lessons, museum/gym/botanical garden memberships.
- Donate time or money to an organization where a friend or relative volunteers.
- Find a volunteer buddy to join you at a local homeless or animal shelter.
- Enlist friends to collect and distribute gifts: e.g., participate in local toy drives sponsored by local organizations; toiletry bags containing deodorant, hair shampoo/conditioner, soap, etc., to residents of homeless/women’s shelters.
- Donate to an organization where you’ll get the benefit (e.g., music/sport programs at your grandkids school)
How Do We Give?
Research says we feel better about giving when we choose to do so. Feeling like you must give can actually make the experience less enjoyable. Here are a few ways to give by choice:
- Pay the grocery bill for the person in front of you.
- The next time you take a walk in your neighborhood, pick up trash along the way.
- Invite a neighbor who lives alone to join you for dinner.
- Remember that happiness doesn’t come from what we get, but what we give.
Happily yours,
— Arnette Travis
